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Written byMen's Health Istanbul Editorial Team
Medical reviewer (awaiting sign-off)Prof. Dr. Ateş Kadıoğlu
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The short answer
After 50, many men find that erections take longer, need more direct touch, are less firm and take longer to return, and orgasm or ejaculate volume may change. These changes are common, but much of what is blamed on age is really about health. Erectile problems become more frequent with each decade largely because of heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, some medicines and low mood, and many of these can be treated. Desire also depends on sleep, stress and the relationship. Most sexual problems at this age have effective treatments.
Key takeaways
- Erections often take longer, need more direct stimulation and may be less firm with age. That is common, but it is not inevitable.
- Erectile problems become more common with age, largely because of blood vessel health, diabetes and medicines.
- Desire, orgasm and recovery time can change too. Relationship and mood matter as much as physiology.
- Most sexual problems at this age have effective treatments. Talking to a doctor is the first step.
How does sex change after 50?
Sexual function changes gradually over a lifetime, and the fifties are often when men first notice. Common changes include:
- erections that take longer to develop and need more direct touch;
- erections that are less firm, or that fade more easily;
- a longer recovery time before another erection is possible;
- changes in the intensity of orgasm or the volume of ejaculate.
None of these means sex is over. Many couples find that slowing down, more foreplay and less focus on penetration make sex more satisfying, not less.
Is erectile dysfunction just part of getting older?
The Massachusetts Male Aging Study, one of the most widely cited surveys of men aged 40 to 70, found that erectile difficulties became more common with each decade. It also found that they were linked with heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, some medicines and low mood. In other words, much of what is blamed on age is really about health, and much of that can be improved.
Erectile problems can also be an early sign of blood vessel disease. We explain why in Why erectile dysfunction can be an early health warning.
Can medicines affect erections?
Several common medicines can affect desire, erections or ejaculation, including some blood pressure tablets, antidepressants and treatments for an enlarged prostate. Never stop a prescribed medicine on your own, but do ask the prescriber whether it might be contributing; there is often an alternative.
Why does sex drive change with age?
Sex drive depends on hormones, but also on energy, stress, sleep, self-image and how things are in a relationship. Retirement, illness in either partner and changes in a partner's own sexual health are all part of the picture at this age. Talking openly, as uncomfortable as it can feel, often helps more than anything else.
When should I see a doctor?
If changes are bothering you or your partner, a doctor can look for treatable causes and talk through options, from lifestyle changes and tablets to other treatments. Our overview of male sexual health covers the main conditions and treatments in one place.
Questions men also ask
Is it normal to need more stimulation after 50?
Yes. Erections often take longer and need more direct touch with age. It is common and does not mean sex is over.
Should I stop a medicine that might be affecting my erections?
No. Never stop a prescribed medicine on your own. Ask the prescriber whether it could be contributing; there is often an alternative.
Sources & further reading
- Feldman HA, Goldstein I, Hatzichristou DG, Krane RJ, McKinlay JB. Impotence and its medical and psychosocial correlates: results of the Massachusetts Male Aging Study. J Urol. 1994;151(1):54–61.
- European Association of Urology. EAU Guidelines on Sexual and Reproductive Health. View source (opens in a new tab)
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